Rela­tion­ships aren’t easy to deal with. On the one hand, you’re happy to be with the one you love. You try to do your best to make your part­ner happy. You’re sac­ri­fic­ing minor things to live together, to enjoy things together. You make choices that affect your rela­tion­ship every day. You’d even give your life for the one. You instinc­tively know that he/she is the one. It’s a feel­ing of con­tent­ment, of completion.

On the other hand, you don’t know if you should involve your part­ner into your every decision-making process, what­ever the rea­son. You want to life your live alone, with­out depend­ing on oth­ers. You may want to spare him/her some sor­rows and/or pain. You don’t wanna upset your part­ner, you wanna guard him instead. Well, if you track it down it’s all about choices.

I don’t like choices. Nowa­days, there are plenty of actions you can choose from. You have to con­sciously decide what to do in most of the every­day sit­u­a­tions you’re con­fronted with. Of course, there are many sit­u­a­tions where you can rely on intu­ition and instincts. But every so often there are moments in life where you don’t wanna have so many options at your dis­posal. There are stud­ies show­ing that this over­sup­ply of choice is really bad. It makes peo­ple feel uncom­fort­able and could result in peo­ple falling back to tried-and-true behavior.

I like to think things over. Gen­er­ally speak­ing, I’m a thinker and not prone to spon­ta­neous actions. Inter­est­ingly enough, the tougher a deci­sion seems to be the eas­ier it is to make a choice. Well, I don’t like a mul­ti­tude of choices when shop­ping. Most goods only dif­fer in the very detail and aren’t really worth the trou­ble to rack one’s brains over the great­est achiev­able benefit.

There’s always the pos­si­bil­ity to break every choice down to two. Yes and no. Black and white. Attack or flight. Just elim­i­nate all the var­i­ous shades of grey. Is this the right thing to do? I’m inclined to agree on that in many sit­u­a­tions. It makes things eas­ier, espe­cially if you like to dwell on ‘em for a long time …